Divorced and dating over 40? Tips to finding Mr. Right
Are you ready to date after divorce?
How are we CEOs of Fortune 500 companies but still can’t figure out the dating game? Have you had a date lately? And don’t use COVID as an excuse as to why the only text messages you’re receiving are from your BFF. Dating after 40 has its challenges- you’re divorced with children, trying to maintain a co-parenting relationship with your ex while handling your business simultaneously. You’re exhausted and not in the mood for a man’s BS. Sound familiar?
Dating sucks! Pulling out a fresh pack of batteries and handling IT seems more comfortable—multiple orgasms with no strings attached. But at some point, you’ll crave the attention only a man can provide.
Women's milestone age of turning 40 isn’t all rainbows and unicorns. For me, it was the opposite. I was shaken. I looked back on my life and couldn’t figure out where did all the time go. Yes, I’d invested quite a bit of time in failed marriages and having children, but seriously, it was as if I woke up and poof, I was 40.
Dating is a crapshoot. You’d think that the older you get, the wiser you become, but that isn’t always the case. To have a chance in hell of successful dating, consider things when you’re ready to dive into the deep end of the pool.
Here are my dating after 40 tips:
Make sure you’re entirely over your misery, I mean divorce. LOL! I viewed my divorce as a rejection and failure. Neither of us was emotionally invested in the relationship, but kids and life commitments kept us hanging on. Make sure you’ve cut the cord. You’ve given yourself time to heal.
Take it nice and slow. Dating isn’t a race. You have nothing to prove to anyone how quickly you can get into a relationship. Keep it casual and get to know him. No sex! Yes, I know your pipes are clogged, but you know how to take care of that, wink.
Be a serial dater. Keep the lines of communication open with your interested parties but keep it 100. Let them know that you’re dating multiple people. Have fun!
Size matters. Get your head out of the gutter. I’m referring to his heart and bank account. Is he the right person? Is he trustworthy? Is he responsible? And, make sure his money ain’t funny. Yes, he’s a cutie, but if his idea of a date is Netflix and pizza on your couch, that’s not a good look.
Try online. Virtual space is it. There is no reason why you haven’t joined the crowd by swiping to the right. More variety with less time invested.
The dating game is hard work, regardless of age. But with the right attitude and reasonable expectations, there’s no reason why you can’t find what you’re looking for while dating after 40.
